March Word of the Month – Confidence

March Word of the Month – Confidence
20 Feb 2019

I HAVE A CONFIDENCE ABOUT MY LIFE THAT COMES FROM STANDING TALL ON MY OWN TWO FEET.” – JANE FONDA –

 

WHAT IS CONFIDENCE?

Confidence is our TRUST in ourselves. This trust is what allows us to make decisions, both big and small. For example, when you pick out a new T-shirt to wear, you do it because you think the T-shirt looks cool. You are confident that you will like how it looks. You are also being confident when you stick up for a classmate who is being bullied. You trust yourself to know that bullying is wrong, and you should stop it.

Ask Your Students:

  1. What are some decisions you have made confidently?
  2. How does it make you feel when you act with confidence?
  3. How do you show confidence, or trust in yourself, in martial arts?
  4. What would happen if you did not have confidence?

DON’T BE AFRAID OF OPPOSITION. REMEMBER, A KITE RISES AGAINST, NOT WITH, THE WIND.” – HAMILTON WRIGHT MABIE –

BEING CONFIDENT IN OURSELVES MEANS STANDING UP FOR WHAT WE BELIEVE IN.

Sometimes, people will try to make you less confident. Confidence can be small, like liking a certain shirt, or big, like standing up for a friend who is being picked on. People may try to stop your confidence by saying things like, “That is a silly shirt,” or “Well, your friend is a geek.” Don’t let these types of people stop your confidence. Remember – trust yourself. You know you like your shirt. You know bullying is wrong. Don’t let their words change your mind.

Ask Your Students:

  1. Has anyone ever tried to make you less confident?
  2. How should you react when someone tries to make you less confident?
  3. Say out loud with me now: “I am strong! I trust myself! I am confident!” (Repeat until they are all following along.) The next time someone tries to make you less confident, say this inside your head. Again: “I am strong! I trust myself! I am confident!” I am confident that you can all do this!

SELF-BELIEF DOES NOT NECESSARILY ENSURE SUCCESS, BUT SELF-DISBELIEF ASSUREDLY SPAWNS FAILURE.” – ALBERT BANDURA –

CONFIDENCE ALSO MEANS LEARNING FROM OUR MISTAKES.

Sometimes, you can be confident but still be wrong. Imagine this: there is a question on a multi-choice test. Makayla is confident that the answer is A. When she gets the test back, it turns out the answer was actually C. But, Makayla learns from this, and now she knows that the answer is C. James is not confident. He does not even write an answer on the test because he is afraid to be wrong. When he gets the test back, he does not even look to see what the answer was. “What’s the point?” James thinks. “I am always wrong anyway.”

Ask Your Students:

  1. Both Makayla and James were wrong. But who do you think will do better on the next test?
  2. Do you think James is confident?
  3. What advice would you give to James to help him?

A SHIP IN HARBOR IS SAFE, BUT THAT’S NOT WHAT A SHIP IS BUILT FOR.”– JOHN SHEDD –

BEING CONFIDENT CAN MEAN TAKING RISKS – AND THAT’S OKAY.

Imagine being on a boat, no larger than the size of this room, out on the sea, no land in sight. You can go home or keep going into the sea to try and find new places. Which decision takes more confidence?

You can stay in one place if you have no confidence. Or, you can be confident and take a risk or take a chance. A risk doesn’t have to mean actually going out to sea. For you, it could mean trying a new activity or taking a new class in school. You could love the new activity or new class!

Ask Your Students:

  1. What is a risk or chance you have taken?
  2. How could confidence open up more possibilities?
  3. What is a time you have taken a risk that has paid off?

Dear parents and/or guardians…

CONFIDENCE

This month we are learning about confidence. Confidence is a KEY SKILL for young children to develop. Children already have thoughts and opinions of their own; confidence is what allows them to express them. It is also essential for how they perceive their own self-worth.

HOW CAN YOU HELP?

  • Model confidence for your child. You can do this by showing SELF-LOVE and by speaking POSITIVELY of yourself (note: this is not the same as bragging or showing vanity. True confidence does not come at the expense of putting others down.).
  • Ask them about their day. Show interest in what they say, and ask follow-up questions.
  • Encourage your child to find his or her own solutions to problems – don’t intervene and try to solve everything for them.
  • Support them when they fail. Explain to them that one failure or setback is not the end of their goals, and does not mean that they should give up. However, do make sure to acknowledge that their emotions are valid – do not simply tell them to “get over it.”

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